why do we bother having a forum here
for the sake of not being a total dick, what are your computer specs? processor, graphics card, memory.
Try running without bloom, 1024x768, planets med, ships med/med/low, buildings med/med/low. For Anti-Aliasing, none or no-sampling.
If you got SOASE from Steam, the next beta will have the menu fixed. Steam and most recently updated SOASE is Entrenchment 1.053, not 1.051 so there is that new mod folder.
Press start, then run, type dxdiag, save details, and paste details to www.pastebin.com then paste the link here.
it will also help if you avoid playing with more than 3 AI's since you are running on Vista.