Rezonator, it sounds like you just don't have any interest in playing challenging Sins games--games against real opponents. Scoutting out your opponent, determining the strength and composition of your opponent's fleet, anticipating your opponent's next moves, and making adjustments to your own fleet's composition and responding to your opponent's moves and taking advantage of his mistakes is just part of the game. You aren't supposed to be able to build whatever units you want willy-nilly and win the game--if you make the wrong moves you're supposed to lose. It is--a strategy game--after all.
i do enjoy that, very much, and no, im not saying i want to be able to just build X and win, im saying i dont want to HAVE to build X to win because the other guy decided to go for the cheap, quick win, rather than playing to the extent of the game (i.e. capturing a certain number of planets, fortifying, constructing an economy, tech-ing up, building a bada boom fleet etc). it just smacks of poor AI difficulty levels where the devs have given the AI a massive resource, construction and damage boost just to make it more competitive. im playing how i imagine the devs imagined Sins would be played, and the other guy gives up all strategic thinking for a quick and decisive tactical win. yes, its a viable strategy, and in small maps, its probably the only really viable way to win, but, i have to say, im personally not interested in that. so shoot me.
I suspect that your concern about "asshats" is very much overblown. First, someone who spams out units--someone who tries to win the game--is not an asshat. Rather, he's just a competitive player who gives you a challenge (?) and forces you to use your knowledge of the game's strategy to counter him. (It's a, umm, strategy game, right? It's supposed to be kind of challenging, right? It's a competitive war game and not Strawberry Shortcake and friends play Sim City with space ships, am I right about that?)
first, excuse the use of the term asshat, it had been used very recently and i liked the ring of it, despite how ambiguous it is. now, im not saying someone who tries to win the game is a loser or a cheater or an asshole. it ties in to the fact that a tactical win achieved by ignoring all strategic planning and simply building one type of unit to take advantage of a weakness is not my idea of a fun time. if he used a combined fleet, LF, LRF, caps, maybe a few carriers and flaks for diversity, and simply out manouvered me early on because my fleet was in the wrong position and i made mistakes, fine... even if it was just an LF spam, i could probably get over that because its the only ship available early game. but when a player foregoes simply research upgrades like ice and volcanic upgrades, or trade networks or phase lane monitoring, just so he can spam 30 LRF that would be nearly uncounterable that early in the game, and kill the whole thing before it begins, bleh. thats competition, not fun. i mean, that early in the game you dont need more than 5 LF and LRF to beat most militia, so unless you forego usual expanding speed to build a adequate fleet to defend against such a rush.... challenge etc is great, but its exactly like an engineer rush in Command and Conquer, wow, the guy built some seriously low grade units, ran in, captured you shit and sold it, wow, arent you an idiot. thats not a challenge, thats stupid.
As for the few actual asshats who talk trash to people they don't already know in a non-joking fashion, let me say that the game is intended for people who are over the age of 12 and who should be able to laugh off that sort of thing. In fact, it's even fun beating up on the asshats and shutting them up. Think of it as an additional challenge. (The actual asshats don't talk too much trash, rather they normally quietly disappear from the game's you're playing and force you to take down every enemy planet in order to get your hard-fought-for win.)
i agree that its fun to beat a guy who was trash talking 5 mins earlier, but why should i have to endure someone going, oh, haha, you idiot i drilled you with my fully hectic LRF spam, man, you're an idiot? im not saying it has anything to do with anything, it may be nearly unheard of in Sins. But i have no patience for it, nor should i be asked to. come to think of it, ive seen a number of posts from self proclaimed spammers whinging because their spam got drilled by someone elses spam, or by better tactics overall. thats another thing im not that interested in, spammers whining cause they got beat at their own game. i know it has nothing to do with me, but it really detracts from the experience for me. energy i could be putting into the game gets re-directed to dealing with immature dweebs. again, i dont know how many are out there exactly, but from what i hear about how ICO is deserted atm, how pros are smurfing to get games, and all the stuff on forums... i think its a safe bet that there are alot of... idn what to call them... less than mature players, lets say.
once again, i want to say i really respect how you try to put MP in a good light for other players. i did pick up on a few barbs directed at me in your post... which i didnt exactly appreciate, but still. good on you for trying so hard, and its not your fault, its just i really cant be bothered to spend time and energy on an exercise that could prove to be seriously unfun because of a just a few people