Men Give and Women Recieve...

Interesting......

~carebear~

I think you and Eddie Griffin are on to something here zoo!

I think you and Eddie Griffin are on to something here zoo!

Heh, me too!

~carebear~

It's simply prostitution in a round-about-way. It makes the world go round. You, Eddie Griffin, and Nevada are on to something!!!

Its high time Eddie Griffin was recognized along with Einstein, Hawking and the Foreman as a genius in his respective field.

I hate getting stuff, and i hate being paid for, so ugh on you! Not all girls are all gimme, gimme, gimme.

But some girls *cough* sarah *cough* are going to have to get used to it at least to some degree. I'm telling you right now. Deprieving me of buying something for you is like saying you don't want me to do my part to be a good boyfriend. That's how I've been told to do things and that's how it's going to be... sometimes. I'll let you get your way most of the time if you push hard enough though.

Capt. over and out!

I disagree Capt - There's a book by Gary Chapman called the 5 Love Languages (it's been adapted for teenagers and children as well as for couples) and it states that Men and Women can have different primary and secondary Love Languages.
Like mine is Quality Time and Words of Affirmation but my Husbands is Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation (the other 2 are Receiving Gifts and Physical Touch) most women would assume that all men's primary love language would be physical touch because they like sex, and women's is receiving gifts because they ike flowers and diamonds.

But Acts of Service people feel really loved if their partner say does the dishes, or changes the baby's nappy or cooks them a meal -- without being asked to.
Quality Time people just like to have sit down face to face time where they can just talk about nothing
Words of Affirmation people feel really rejected if they're put down in some way - to then just the words I love you or you're wonderful can fill their love tank
Physical touch people just don't like sex - it's hugs and kisses and face stroking and hair stroking, hand holding

Giving/Receiving gifts is just one part - if you buy your partner a store full of flowers and chocolates diamonds and stuff you may think She knows you love her -- but she may just think it's stuff and may just want you to go on a picnic or play a game of scrabble (quality time), or hear that you love her in a poem or song (words of affirmation)

You know?

Ugh, men = credit limits.

-- B

There's a book by Gary Chapman called the 5 Love Languages

I really wish people would stop writing books on personal aspects of people's lives...they never apply to every situation and they give people bad ideas that probably won't work all the time...

~Zoo

Not true - it's general enough to be pliable to every situation - if you haven't read it you really can't say anything about it.

Not true - it's general enough to be pliable to every situation - if you haven't read it you really can't say anything about it.

Eh, whatever....maybe it's just my "I'll do everything myself attitude"....well if it works for you more power to ya.

~Zoo

So, If I say I love her, hold her when she needs to be held, give her something special every now and then, and do her dishes without being asked I'm in? That sounds too easy... I don't buy it.

I can say this much though, I love you Sarah. If what you say is true I just did a fifth of what I need to to show that I love her.

Capt. over and out!

I admit I love it when my b/f sends cards, gifts, flowers, etc....BUT...I have given, given, given as well... I sent him a "just because" amazon.com certificate a few weeks back...and gosh...he showered me with so many kisses that day (albeit "phone" kisses, but I still enjoyed them) lol

I think you are only considering material things in your example of "giving".  Even with the material, I know many women who give far more than they get.  My husband and I give and receive in our own different ways.  If it isn't mutual and satisfying the needs of both, it isn't going to work in the long run.

There are stereotypes for a reason though.  There are a great number of very visible women who expect men to constantly buy them stuff and treat them like queens with very littel reciprocation.  They often end up with lots of material goods but nothing of substance.  Just a thought from a mature, happy, fulfilled woman.

well, on this one, i disagree. i mean, generally speaking, women like to receive material things, sure, but one can't limit giving and receiving to a material level. I know that men tend to see women in that way, and women are even starting to see themselves in that way. but this is not the case at all. on the emotional level, women strain themselves to no end trying to please or at least understand their partner. i have more to say, but this is getting lond and boring.

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women strain themselves to no end trying to please or at least understand their partner.

Ah, I understand....well, I think so....but there's not much to understand about guys...we're not as complicated as you think...

Thanks for the input Kendra...

~Zoo

women give life. that's the whole primal reason for elaborate courtship, no?