Greetings everyone I have a really stupid question that many online gamers already know the answer to.  But for my personal experiance I've never have delt with.  So like a "noob" I don't understand.

Ok as for the question. 

While playing a game I constantly seem to get the screen asking if I want to boot said player due to lag.  I dont have any counts under my ping colum, but theres is usally pretty high.  I don't understand the ping part of it really.  I do understand what a ping is (or well a very basic idea at least.  Small packets of information sent back an forth).   In other games that I play as well as just basic net usage I don't seem to every suffer much lag.  And if I do its in a highly populated area where I would expect it anyways.  I'm running a cable connection myself.

Are the high ping counts coming from my end of the connection or the other players?

Any helpful response on this would be very welcome.  And please excuse my typos, spelling was never my strong subject in school.