^Well actually I think the most recent version is 1.191 (if you haven't updated your game in a while there was a hotfix a ways back). Anyways, your user.settings file is in the Settings folder of the Sins of a Solar Empire AppData folder (where mods go). Find that file and make sure this line is in the file.
IcoServerPort 7000
If you can't find it tell me your operating system and I can give an exact path.
