it gets on my nerves, I need a way to pause the game.
As slow as it is, you really don't need the pause button, which is sitting on your keyboard labeled "pause".
I realize it is my Ram, I don't have the mimimum (I think(, so I tried to increase my virtual ram, it didn't seem to help (or I didn't notice if it did)
1.5 GB's is well within the required amounts for an XP system, its your use of a P4 processor thats bottlenecking your system. Also, virtual ram runs
much slower than regular ram, all it is is space on your HD that your computer uses as memory. It isn't going to help you.
SO WHY DOES IT LAG?!?!?!?!?
I can't tell you without more information, but I'm goign to guess your computer hasn't been properly maintained.
Go to windows -> run -> type in dxdiag -> check the page file line. If its significantly over 250, start playing from a clean boot.
Defrag your hard drive.
Scan for viruses (you do have an up-to-date virus scanner, right?)
Past that... I'm sure we can come up with stuff if that doesn't help you.