After following this thread for a while and slogging thru all 10 pages, I gotta put in my 2 cents:
Started playing online mp about 2 weeks ago. My team mates were exceptionally patient telling me what to do and WHY. I watched the replays, took note of my mistakes, and kept playing and applying what I learned. After a couple of days, I dont lose much anymore, partly because I dont quit unless everyone on my team quits. But I'm enjoying the games not because of who wins/loses, but because of the strategy and the unknown of each game map/team.
I play mostly pug (pick up games). Captains choose based on experience and records. I'm in Hawaii, so when I get on after work etc, it's pretty late for most, or early for others. Interestingly, the games I play are with about the same 20 or so players....people who are playing at the same time because of their schedules. Most are pretty decent. Some are outstandingly helpful and instructive. A few are rude and base.
I played over the last 2 weekends and found that most of the games during the day (my time) were a waste due to people quitting when they were "down to a couple of planets" instead of staying in the game and assisting the team; or people dropping a few minutes into the game for whatever reason, etc, etc. However, early in the am (here) and late in the pm (here) the games are EXCEPTIONAL.
So from my experience, WHEN you get on very much dictates how enjoyable your online experience will be. If you havent had that much fun trying mp, try a different time. Hopefully you'll catch a great group of players like I have and enjoy a good game!
(Sunday a.m. I was in a 5v5 that was EPIC, in it's scope and strategy! I got rushed right away (was trying a risky strategy), almost lost everything, but my team bailed me out and fed me till I was back on my feet, and I stayed in the game and played a major role in our eventual win! It was great. It was fun. It's what mp is about and brings to the table...
Hope to see you online.