Hi and welcome to the SINS community! Always glad to have more players, anyway as for your situation, when you log onto Ironclad Online you are taken to a screen where you see your user name i assume, what you would do there is the following:

Step 1: Click "Add Player" tab and it will prompt you to enter a user name, put your user name there

Step 2: Once you have your user name entered, it will appear in the box on the lower left hand of the screen, highlight your user name and click on the tab to your right that reads "Use Player"

Step 3: You should be taken to a game lobby where you will see other player names to your right and options to host or join games to your left and a chat box in the middle. Enjoy!

Also, sometimes you may not see any players in the game lobby but dont worry, sometimes people are either in a game that havent finished yet or in different lobbies or you just happen to be on at a point where player base isnt at its peak.

Hey, no problem always glad to help a new player to the game

You can get a game going at pretty much every hour, but it might take a while. Sadly, as Jixra has already mentioned, the community ain't that big online as one might hope for, so in worst case there are only about 2-5 games going with like 10-20 people online.

The good side of this is that you get to know people pretty quickly and most likely see them again soon. So it's a fair trade in my eyes.

Sadly, women and gaming don't always mix very well.

That's easily fixed - get rid of her

Being in Australia I find that I need to play Sat/Sun morning to get ppl in US prime (their nights etc...). But you DO get a game then. Other times (like our evening after work) is a bit more hit/miss. If I can't get on, I now play Demigod - for just under $27AU it was a great investment (now I can connect post patch).

Because of how small the online community is. People just go play single player (like me)

If all the single player people that wants to play online (like me...) go joins the lobby. the multiplayer community would be much bigger and successfull but the problem is..... I know it is hard to get a game going.. and many people probably think the same. and Just rarely shows up in the lobby..

So basicaly its hard lol. cause a lot of people dont have the patients (once again. Me)