hmm... your playing vanilla. intresting. Alot of the AI updates and certainly the pirate difficulity was upped in the expansion packs only.
Just... make sure you know your counters, build lots of repair bays, expand FASTER, stop building hangers and turrets, stop researching useless tech... build an akkan, sova, or marza instead of a kol... standard stuff, you really should be able get your skill back up to beat hard AI no problems.
Or, just watch a multiplayer replay. you'll get that "Actually I CAN do that, hal" achievment in no time.