1) How do you track where there are battles happening? The AI builds a huge army sends them off in all directions and then i totally lose whats going on where. Is there a quick way to zoom in where there are active battles happening?
Hover the mouse over the bars just to the right of a gravity well (when zoomed out). If you see large numbers of ships from multiple factions, it's very likely that a battle is happening there.
Also, from what I've seen from the AI, they rarely split their fleet into more than 2 groups... it shouldn't be hard to keep track of.
2) Also what is the command to follow an individual ship? I bound one but it doesnt seem to work to good...unless thats just the game itself? like i hit the zoom in key it will "kinda" zoom in on the unit and then i "scroll" close to really see the unit. Its the like the camera kinda "misses" the best view to watch the unit?
What exactly's the problem? Double click on a unit to focus on it, and use the scroll wheel to adjust zoom if they z/x/c zoom keys aren't precise enough for what you want.
3) How can you add a 3rd AI player? I'd like to watch 3 AI's all battle it out
Pick a medium universe instead of a small one. You'll be able to have up to 4 players. Larger settings can support even larger numbers of players (or AI).