Not really, no. Strip-rushing can't be countered unless you happen to have a straight shot for their homeworld and seize it immediately. While possible, it's just not realistic.
As for the VR, if you don't kill them before they get a Kultorask and mobile Orkies, you're probably never going to. Nano Leech+Gravity Pulse will eat your frigates alive and make the Kultorask invincible. When they die, they leave behind debris which the Orky can eat to regen health as well. There really isn't an effective strategy aside from spamming bombers, but all they have to do then is bring a couple Kortuls and they can ignore the bomber spam.
I experienced this. I felt I was doing fairly well for my third game with 3 Cap-ships backed up by about a dozen flak frigates and a handful of missile launcher-Assailants starting to join in...
When at just ~40 minutes into the game a fleet with 9 caps and easily 50+ frigates jumped me and killed everything in just a few minutes....
On the post game screen I was universally ahead on all resources. This needs to be patched and re-balanced, I don't want what I think will become my favorite race to be banned because it's unfair. I don't want to have to sit in chat and tell people I'm not going to use a certain strategy just to get them to let me play at all.